How many times have you taken a customer service survey or filled out a product return form and seen the little box begging to be checked: Expectations Not Met
What about in relationships? How many relationships have ended and left you feeling like you need to check the box beside "Expectations Not Met" on the post-relationship survey? I would venture to say it could be applicable to every break up, fizzled out high-potential relationship, and divorce.
Can expectations ever really be met?
I look at my most recent failed relationship and I have to own the fact that a major component of that failure was not him actually lacking anything, it was me having expectations that he couldn't, in all fairness, really meet. Was that me setting him up for failure? Yes, yes it was. Was it me always giving myself an exit to run out of should I decide that it was getting too hard or too serious or requiring too much communication and openness from me? Yep, that too.
This is nothing new for me, for us. This is not the first break up. It's not the first time that I've been disappointed in how something was handled. It's not the first time my expectations haven't been met.
Will I do things differently next time? Probably not.
How do you manage expectation in you relationships? Have you ever broken up with a perfectly good person because you can't let yourself be content with what's in front of you? Tell me about!