Take for instance my recent reminder of Fireman that I happened upon by chance. For those of you that have been with me throughout the entire Fireman saga, commence eye rolling. For those of you that don't know the history, you can get caught up here if you need a good dose of deceit and drama.
The long and short of it is that although claiming complete singledom upon our meeting, he was indeed engaged at that time and went on to get married to his long-time girlfriend during the course of our hook ups, none of which I knew of at the time. He denied, denied, denied until I had enough hard proof that he had to cop to it. Then I found out she was pregnant. That, he continued to deny through the end of our communication, even when there was nothing left to lose, he still denied that he was a father-to-be. Basically, he's a real stand up guy.
That was that. The end. No communication and very few thoughts of him have passed since then.
So imagine my surprise when, upon enjoying my morning coffee and reading the local newspaper while at Twin's house last weekend, I see the birth announcement for his "she's not pregnant, I swear!" bundle of joy. A little girl.
I was not surprised that he did indeed have a baby, I already knew it was happening. What I was surprised by was unexpectedly seeing proof of it in small print black and white while I was innocently trying to enjoy my breakfast.
Since seeing the news of him being a father of a little girl, I have had one thought stuck in my head: Will being the father to a daughter make him change?
It's one thing to be unfaithful to your girlfriend then wife, to be having multiple affairs before the ink is dry on your marriage certificate, to deny the impending birth of your child when you are only responsible for and accountable to yourself. But can you still justify behaving that way knowing that you now have a little girl that will some day grow up and could be the girl on either side of a shitty situation like that you have created for the women in your life?
Will being a dad make him be a better man?
I don't know but I hope so. For her sake.
I was thinking of sending a congratulatory gift for the baby but that somehow seems...inappropriate...under the circumstances. Right?!?