First of all, thank you for all of your support and advice with the recent Fireman tragedy. You guys really are the best and it's nice to know that you have my back whether I decide to plot an epic revenge or take the high road.
I've decided to take the high road. Or at least try to, but it hasn't proven easy up to this point.
Fireman has been relentless. He is texting me all hours of the day and night. His desperation is palpable. I'm not responding. But man, it is so hard to not just let him have a piece of my mind right now!
I've noticed something throughout the course of his texting. He is exhibiting the behavior of one of the few things that I actually recall from all my years of college: Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's 5 Stages of Death & Grief or "DABDA" as I used the acronym to remember it for my test.
Denial: "It's fine, this doesn't change anything with us"
Anger: "Oh what? Now you just ignore me? WTF!"
Bargaining: "Just let me come over, I can explain. I promise I won't try anything."
Depression: "Must have finally kicked in, I guess we're done....?"
Acceptance: Still waiting on this part to happen so he can quit texting me and just go away.
You would think after 4 days of one way texting, he would get the picture but he is showing himself to be quite persistent, and I think almost more in disbelief that I would really just go dark on him and completely walk away from our situation. It is totally a matter of his ego at this point. I don't think he enjoys not getting his way.
Hopefully he takes his newly found free time and invests it into trying to make it up to his wife and his baby on the way. He probably won't, but a girl can hope.
What I do realize, thanks in large part to your advice and wisdom, is that this has nothing to do with me. I can't teach him a lesson or make him want to be a better man. That is on him. The only thing I can do at this point is not enable him to keep me in a situation where I clearly don't belong.