Tuesday, November 29, 2011

The tricky art of birthdays/holidays in a kinda sorta relationship

As I mentioned in my last post, I found myself upon the first tricky gift giving occasion in my kinda sorta relationship thing with Twin. It sounds like I'm not the only one in that place as we find ourselves facing down the gift-giving days ahead.

 His birthday was the Saturday after Thanksgiving. I had been clued in to that back in September by accident when I got the bright idea to take advantage of a great hotel deal and asked what he thought about the day after Thanksgiving for an overnight (I know, optimistic with my track record to plan something for late November all the way back in early September but I did none the less). He said "Oh, the day before my birthday??" That was my clue. Plus you know what a big fan I am of hotel sex so any occasion to book, is a good one.

As the date crept closer and Twin and I were still doing our kinda sorta relationship, all signals were "go" for our birthday extravaganza. I booked dinner reservations at one of my favorite restaurants so I had that covered. Now it just left the gift. Was the hotel/dinner/overnight thing a gift? Yes. But I would do that with or without him and he knew that so I felt compelled to do something specifically for him.

This is where it got a little tricky. Twin is a shopper. If he wants something, he buys it. Doesn't leave a lot of room for a girl to be creative.  I thought about his personality and tried to find something he wouldn't expect but could appreciate.

Lucky for me, I think ahead. During my weekend away in the mountains not so long ago, I was taken to the coolest book store and spent a lot of time looking for something just random and quirky enough to catch his interest. He loves books and has quite a collection so I knew he would appreciate a new one for his stacks. I found the perfect book and snatched it up. It was full of random ways to fill your days and had some really creative, and some off the wall, borderline illegal ideas, so it was a great choice. So check off the creative gift from the list.

Twin is also a bit of a metro. His closet rivals mine, even in shoe quantity which is just a little disturbing but I'm coming to terms with it. I still have him by a solid 20 pairs so I can deal. I found a few pieces of clothing that I knew would fit, in terms of size and style, and went the safe but reliable route to round off birthday presents.

It was a success! All the way around. From the hotel, to the restaurant, to the presents wrapped in manly wrapping paper...yes there is such a thing.... it all worked. I'm quite proud of myself! But I realize now that I set the bar really high so going forward, I'm going to have to find a way to maintain my level of awesomeness... that could get exhausting!

Don' you wish you were dating me now??? I know... he's a lucky guy huh??

I had a few people say they would appreciate some tips on navigating the dicey kinda sorta relationship thing gift giving territory. I'm no expert but I have few a suggestions that might be helpful for you. Happy shopping!

1) What quirky/unique thing are they into? Maybe it's a collection of some sort or something you find them talking about or referencing frequently during conversations. Maybe it was something they did or somewhere they went that they really loved. Find a way to incorporate that into your gift or plans.

2) Make it about the two of you. If you don't have a lot of shared history to fall back on for reference, make it about creating a new memory/tradition with the two of you. It doesn't have to be something flashy or complicated so don't over think it.

3) Don't make it too personal if you aren't there yet in your situation. That can be guessing sizes if you don't have a pretty good clue, getting something that's too intimate for where your kinda sorta relationship is at, or trying to inject yourself into a tradition that you haven't been invited to be a part of. You don't want to scour his/her contact info and invite 100 of his/her closest friends to a surprise party if he/she hasn't even introduced you yet. That just makes it awkward for both of you in the end.

4) Don't make it too generic. Unless you have just started dating, you shouldn't cop out and go the generic route for the occasion. If you have spent any amount of time together or been in each other space on multiple occasions, you should be able to deduct some amount of personal information such as sports teams he/she likes, music he/she listens to, and restaurant/entertainment preferences. Draw off of those pieces of information to pick something, even a small something, that shows him/her that you are paying attention to what they like.

Just a little tip, if making plans that you aren't 100% sure he/she/the two of you  might still be around for when the time comes, make sure it something that you would be OK doing on your own or going with a friend. You don't want the tickets/reservations to go to waste should your dude/chick flake on you. Hope for the best, plan for the worst!

Monday, November 28, 2011

Irony can be a cold b*tch, literally, and some other stuff too

So should I be surprised at the little bit of irony experienced on this lovely Monday morning? Maybe, but probably not.

As part of my attempt to show gratitude daily, I had a little God time this morning and literally broke it down to a list of things that I take for granted every day but really really am appreciative for, comfort things.

The list was long but include things like my super comfy bed, clean hot water for my morning shower, my warm house as it turns colder outsides... etc etc. You get the picture. By 9am, I was advised my furnace was deemed dead by the HVAC repair guy and I have no heat until the new furnace goes in tomorrow morning.

Now I'm even more thankful for the warm house I had this morning. Funny how things like that work. (don't worry, they are bringing in space heaters in the mean time so I certainly won't be cold for long and I don't have to pay for the replacement so all is well)

But enough about gratitude and broken stuff... on to the fun!

I have enjoyed my brief hiatus from all things writing related. It wasn't spurred by any big life event or done out of protest for any good cause, I just wanted to take a break. It was good for me. But I miss you all so I wanted to hurry back and see what I missed!! So??? Fill me in!!

Since you only really read me to see what shenanigans I have been up to, I'll give you a quick update. Twin and I are still doing our thing. We spent from Thursday night through Sunday afternoon entertaining each other. It was fun.  I took him to the city for an overnight on Friday for his birthday. More on the complexities of handling birthdays/holidays in the "kinda sorta relationship" situation later, it was tricky but came off well I think.

I have been behaving myself. And I'm not bored yet, but I don't feel I'm completely settled yet either. It's kind of a precarious position to be in and I'm not sure if I'll give in and go all in with Twin or if I need to just let things simmer for a while longer.

I'm not sure what my hesitation is but it's there and I am aware of it so I consider it valid for the time being. Or I might just be "mental" as my sweet Kat would say. Yeah, that might be it.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Above the Clouds

I'm sure you all were distracted all weekend wondering how my adventure was going. (I like to think you were at least because I like attention) so I thought I would take a few minutes to recap it for you.

This trip, as alluded to in my SCF post, was very last minute but full of promise. It did not fail to deliver. I like bullet points so below are my awesome and not awesome lists.

  • prompt pick up at the airport by my beloved Blog Boy
  • Much much much laughter
  • great food, drinks, and atmosphere in a city much cooler than mine
  • a very productive business meeting on Saturday with awesome clients that I have been doing some work for 
  • free chocolate, lots of free chocolate
  • getting to stand center stage at the historic Red Rocks venue
  • an almost-nap in the afternoon 
  • a new creative challenge accepted
  • more good food and drinks
  • snuggling without pressure or awkwardness
  • coffee
  • more awesome food at the coolest tea house
  • shopping shopping shopping
  • made my flight by the grace of a 15 minute delay 
  • found myself literally above the clouds
Not Awesome:
  • long ass drive to the airport
  • bumpy flight
  • sitting through perhaps the worst executed musical ever
  • getting stuck in construction traffic on the way to catch my flight
  • not enough time in the weekend
  • long ass drive home from the airport in an "end of the world" storm

Overall, the weekend trip was a resounding success. The company  was excellent, the scenery was amazing, and I found myself feeling more optimistic about the future, excited for possibilities, and just in general happier than I have been in quite a while.  So totally worth the turbulence.

Friday, November 11, 2011

"Soft-Core Friday" - Saying Yes to Adventure

Happy "Soft-Core Friday" kids! I hope you have had a lovely week and are planning an even lovelier weekend as we are about to run head first into it.

This week's SCF is in honor of saying "Yes" to last minute opportunities for adventure, even if it requires some logistical challenges, a few inconveniences, and a dose of uncertainty. Just. Say. Yes!

So why is this my "Soft-Core Friday" for today you may be asking? Well, let me tell you...I, through a series of cancelled plans, Twin being off on his own vague sketchy  trip, stars aligning, and the overwhelming generosity and encouragement from a very dear friend, am off on an adventure that will involve a plane ride across the country and a whirlwind weekend of fun and shenanigans. It was booked yesterday if that tells you how last minute it was. I'm super excited!

This trip, in addition to a beautiful change of scenery, will give me a chance to spend a little time in real life with someone that has become a welcome presence of laughter, perspective, and support through the interwebz. Yes, it's the return of Blog Boy.   I think he might be as excited as I am to get to hang out again, but it's just a hunch.

I'm not sure exactly what is one the agenda for this little adventure but I know it will be a good time and there will be a lot of great conversation and laughter which I really need right now. There was also an odd list of required items for me to pack: a positive attitude, a devious smile, and my favorite spatula, along with furry handcuffs, a feather boa, yellow rubber boots, and a bag of skittles. With a list like that, you know there is some sort of agenda at work right??

I'll give you all the lowdown upon my return next week. I might even invite Blog Boy to chime in and give his two cents on the weekend.

Until then....cheers to saying "Yes!" to your own adventures this weekend!

Monday, November 7, 2011

Bloggers I'd like to....well.... you know.... *blush*

I can't really think of any better way to start my week than with receiving this awesome award from my darling Jewels! Saying "Thank you" hardly seems like enough...

I mean really, you know how much I like attention, especially of the "I'd like to F*** you" variety so this really did thrill me.

Jewels made the rules easy and I appreciate that. Basically, you pick BILFs and tell them why. Yahoo for simplicity!  The hard part is narrowing down my choices to just a few because honestly, I'd like to have a special moment with each and every one of you lovelies, but I'm just not that kind of girl...most of the time... 

First the boys:
Wow that was Awkward from It Was Dark, Stormy, and I lost my serial comma : because he has a really title... and makes me laugh almost every day. He's also great at making me feel good (about myself pervs), knows when I need to hear something nice, and is good at keeping secrets. 

Not the Hero from A Fallacious Comedy : because let's face it, our make out is long overdue. He has as many, if not more, shenanigan-filled nights than I do did and he always lands on his feet, after sharing the good, bad, and ugly of how it all went down. I appreciate full-disclosure. 

Brandon from  My Own Private Idaho: there's just something about this guy that makes me smile and he has the best one-liners of inappropriateness... that is a talent and a gift. 

And now the girls: 
(yes I'm doing girls, especially these girls) 
Lady E of  Adventures in Estrogen: Because of her amazing toy collection and because Brandon left her hanging. I got you girl... we'll handle it!

Alyssa of Alyssa Goes Bang: This girl seduces me with her amazing words and her smokin' hot body. Total package she is.... 

My sweet Kat of Kat O'nine Tales: She was my first...and you always remember your first. Plus she has a spectacular rack and rocks a Wonder Woman costume like nobody's business and what's not to like about that? 

Ok, I'm keeping my list short and sweet as to not cheapen the whole "Bloggers I'd Like to F***" sentiment. It's special, let's keep it that way. 

Friday, November 4, 2011

"Soft-Core Friday" - Tech Love edition

Happy Friday finally. If this hasn't been the longest week ever, I don't know what is!  I have never been so glad to be on the verge of a weekend.

The week was good but very busy, at least for me. My boss lady was in town for the week so not only did I have to (gasp) go into the office all week, but I also had the obligatory after work cocktails and dinner each evening so everything, including catching up on the posts of all my lovely peeps, has been pushed aside. I'll be trying to catch up this weekend.

For this installment of "Soft-Core Friday" I'm going tech geek on you. I just got my first iPhone, the 4S, last night. I may be in love.

In span of  a short few hours, I am totally enamored with the gadgets and functions and fun that it is bringing to me. And the princess is totally right there with me. The first app I loaded was a Barbie app so now I have to pry my phone from her hands to use it.  Finally, something we both can love, that gives us what we want when we want it, and doesn't flake out on important things. Well, at least not yet!

Here's a pic of my new "toyfriend"  He's gorgeous isn't he??

I'm hoping this relationship works out, I really want to keep him around for a while.

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

My Word is My Bond: Indie Ink Weekly Challenge

It's Indie Ink time again. This week I was given a great prompt from Jen O but thanks  to work sucking the life out of me this week, I went the path of least resistance with this one, it certainly is not my best work.  I'll do better next week, I promise!

Words are just words
Simply said
Easily heard

Words paint the picture
Set the tone
Tell the story

Words capture the moment
Burn in the memory
Hit like a fist

Words mean something
Matter for nothing
Aren’t quite enough

Words bond you to me
Make you believe
Give you faith

Words break you down
Tell you the lie
Twist what is truth

Words mean nothing
Change everything
Make no apologies

This week’s Indie Ink Challenge came from Jen O, who gave me this prompt: My Word is My Bond. I challenged Liz Culver with the prompt: I'm the shell of the girl I used to know well.