Forgiveness - Who have you forgiven this year and what was the journey like that brought you to forgive them?
I have a hard time holding a grudge. Maybe I should try to stay mad longer and withhold forgiveness in certain circumstances when someone does something deserving of such treatment but I don't. I used to. And then I figured it out.
When I am eaten up with anger and refusing to forgive someone for something, it is me that suffers from that, not them. They go about their business not really impacted by my anger or grudge, while I on the other hand let it steal my joy and preoccupy my mind with negativity when I could be using that time and energy to enjoy something positive instead.
I didn't figure this out gracefully or on my own accord. I used to really dig in my heels, cross my arms defiantly, and refuse to forgive someone until they showed the proper level of repentance and remorse to meet my expectation. It was exhausting. And it did far more damage than good.
So I just quit taking that approach. Now, when someone asks forgiveness from me, they get it. I hope that I am treated in the same manner because Lord knows that I do my share of hurtful things and nothing makes me feel worse than genuinely asking for someone's forgiveness and them refusing me.