Pardon me, but I'm going to kinda sorta rant for a second. Bear with me, I'll be over it soon mmmkay?
Today was a big day as you know by now. Here's how a guy dating a single mom can really screw up.
Last weekend was the princess's big pre-birthday party, complete with my family, the ex, and the ex's family. We are cool so we still do family stuff together. I invited Twin but gave him a pass to decline as it would be his first time not only meeting my family, but the ex and his posse as well. I understand how that could be awkward so I didn't want to put him in that situation.
He took the pass which was totally cool with me, and opted instead to plan to come over on her actual birthday for her special dinner to celebrate. It would just be the princess, my parents, and myself.
As of yesterday, the plan was he was coming at 3pm for "break time", we would get dressed, go pick up dinner and the princess, and come back for dinner with the fam as planned.
So today at 3:40, no Twin. I texted. No reply until almost an hour later. By that time I was already on my way to pick up dinner and my parents were on the way to pick up the princess so we could start the celebration. He said he could "probably come by around 5".
Ummm, no thanks.
I told him I was already doing what we had agreed to do together due to his lack of response, and that he could just "come by another time" when it was more convenient for him.
I know that he is not the most punctual person, doesn't really believe in calendars, and is used to running on his own agenda but come on dude, you just blew off your woman's daughter's birthday....again.
For someone who claims to want to be involved in "the whole package" it seems like there are parts of the package that perhaps aren't quite as important.
I don't expect him to 100% engaged at this point, but I don't expect him to be quite this clueless either.
I will admit I am probably hyper-emotional about this topic today of all days, and I'm getting sick and feel like crap so that is probably contributing to my overall crankiness as well but for some reason I thought venting might make me feel better so I did it.
Am I being too harsh? Expecting too much? Putting too much on him too soon? Maybe...but maybe not.
The wall is slowly building back up...hope he is good at climbing or blowing it up.