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Monday, October 10, 2011

The Conversation: Wonder no more

It was a lovely weekend for the princess and I, I hope you all had a great one as well. I wanted to take a quick minute to follow up on my dilemma with the Twin and his online dating profile, which you all provided such great advice on, and how it shook it.

We had an entire weekend planned, totally of his doing, and after a lovely dinner with his best friends, their kids and the princess, we returned to my house full, happy, and tired.  We were laying in bed, laughing over some funny things that came up over dinner and talking about plans for the rest of the weekend and I decided that it would be a good time to take your advice and bring up the topic that was weighing on my mind and distracting me from what should have been a great weekend.

I took a deep breath and just started. I said something along the lines of "we have a lot of plans together, are meeting the people that are important to us, and you are getting pretty close with princess.... I just want to make sure that I am understanding things as you intend me to..." He said I was understanding things perfectly and that his intention is to be with me and only me and that there is a reason that he is introducing me to the important people in his life and that he is wanting to spend time with the princess as well.

Good answer.

But I was still curious about the dating profile. So I asked him straight out about it. He said that he gets email alerts on his phone app for it and he goes on to delete them but hadn't actually been online or interacted on it since like the second time we went out.  That satisfies me. I would prefer he take it down but I won't ask him to. I'm going to take him at his word at this point. Naive? Maybe. I prefer to call it trusting.

I slept better that night than I had in a long time. And we went on to have a great weekend. Canoe trip on the river Saturday morning, followed by a fall festival with his friends and their kids, and dinner at his other best friends house with the family from Friday night as well, they are all friends which is cool. I could tell by the way his friends treat him and talk about him, that they really think a lot of him. And they made me feel very much welcome and brought me right into the craziness.  That counts.

So kids, it looks like just manning up and talking it out was indeed the correct way to go. So I thank you again for your comments and support... you all rock my face off!! *MWAH!*

And because I am in a Gym Class Heroes kind of mood, you get Cupid's Chokehold to listen to today.

17 comments:

  1. It's funny how much easier life is... after you stop stressing about life...

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  2. I'm just glad you were able to sleep better. It does sound like he's into you though!

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  3. I'm so happy with that talked to Twin and that you and he are on the same relationship page, love. I admit that I would have a bit of a struggle with his not taking down the profile completely, but I agree with you that I would focus on that, even if his profile is there, that he's not checking it. I couldn't be more thrilled that you've found someone who recognizes what a brilliant catch he has in you, my darling RandyGirl.~

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  4. I definitely discovered that the best way to deal with those nagging fears is to confront them directly. Simply talking about something can seem kind of scary but as long as you're able to communicate you can work through things.

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  5. yay! talking things out before they eat away at you and drive you crazy is so important, especially at the early stages of a relationship. you've established lines of communication now - something bothers one of you, you know you can bring it up and sort it out - and that's huge! so glad things are looking and feeling good! :)

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  6. 1. Love Cupids Chokehold.

    2. So glad you took the bull by the horns and addressed what was bothering you. I don't think it is naive. You have to have a level of trust, especially at the start, and I think it is wonderful that he put you at ease. I am SO happy for you, and princess, that you have found somebody who enriches your lives. :)

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  7. I'm so happy that you were able to ask your question and receive a truthful (I don't think you're being naive) satisfying answer!

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  8. Love that song ! And communication is a key to a decent relationship so I've being told.

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  9. I'm glad this worked out for you. Personally, I prefer to torture myself, but if having piece of mind is comforting to you....

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  11. Good for you! He's aware that you're aware so that is important. Maybe that's his security safety net and it will eventually be deleted. I'm happy you're happy. Hugs!!

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  12. Good. I hope this continues to go well for you. From the tidbits I've read about him, he seems like a pretty good guy. And that sounds like a lively weekend indeed :)

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  13. *lovely* I meant, with the canoeing and meeting friends and all :)

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  14. I bet you are so relieved! This great news! And I wouldn't call it "naive" either. You are "trusting" him and that's what is important.

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  15. I'm a big fan of just saying. way to go.

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  16. Lisa,

    Men can be terribly ambiguous at times. It's often just a lack of communicating skill. Other times it's because there is something to hide or afraid to speak of. Always, always just hit the nail on the head, go straight for the throat. Spell out what you want and leave no doubt. Early pain hurts much less than later pain.

    Dean
    Http://leftcoastguy.com

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  17. :/ I go away and come back to this?? Syrupy sweet oozings about boys and cuddling and communication?
    Randy... I don't know what to say....

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