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Thursday, March 31, 2011

A girl's point of view - The Threesome review continues

Hello kids! I am finally back from my work/pleasure trip and it is very nice to be home! I will be catching up on all of your posts and comments shortly, I promise I am not ignoring you! Welcome to the new Random Girl followers as well, hope you enjoy the craziness!

Just when you thought the threesome theme had run it's course, no wait! Today I have the great privilege of welcoming my lovely friend Chrystal Rose to Random Girl to share with us her girl's point of view on her threesome experiences. If you aren't already following her blog or on twitter, get on it! She is fully Random Girl certified as awesome!

Chrystal, it's all yours babe!


Three’s Company or Three’s a Crowd?

I slid out of Hellcat’s bed and headed for the kitchen, stopping in my tracks at her bedroom door. The living room looked like what rockstars must leave behind for the maids at the hotels they trash. Empty bottles of beer, liquor, condom wrappers, broken glass, pieces of both red and pink fetish tape, empty whippet canisters and their corresponding balloons, and several cigarettes from a spilt ashtray covered the floor.

This is what Threesome Armageddon looks like.

As I tiptoed through the mess, kicking bits of the fetish tape aside as I went, careful not to step on any broken glass—the man on the couch stirred, rolled over and smiled at me. I smiled back and continued my trek to the kitchen in search of something that resembled water to drink. I quickly discovered that all the glasses were either dirty or had been smashed.

Fuck me.

I let the San Diego City water run for a minute before I stuck my mouth in the stream and gulped a solid 16oz down. Somehow I managed to get back and slide into bed next to Hellcat without injuring myself.

At 26 this was my 2nd threesome and it definitely rose the bar several notches from my first. My first had been at 19, though it could technically be called a foursome because we’d called in a 3rd girl to “finish the job.”

As a woman you are more likely to be part of a threesome some time in your life than a man is (statistically the odds are in your favor). The man may have “pressure to perform” in a MFF threesome but essentially he has it made.

As a female there are a few things to consider:

The ideal role is “The Guest Star”

Scenario One:

Female: Friend of mine
Male: Friend of mine with benefits who happened to have a crush on the female

Why it worked: I had zero feelings for him so I was able to walk away having had a fun experience. No jealousy, etc.

Scenario Two:
Female: Friend of mine
Male: Ex-Boyfriend of female

Why it worked (for me): Once again there weren’t any feelings tangled in, so I was able to walk away with a smile on my face.
As a guest star you are invited into the bedroom of another couple (or ex-couple) and can bail when the harsh light of day arrives along with the aftermath. And I really feel that threesomes are best for everyone involved when feelings aren’t.

The Insider

As an insider considering a threesome, there are lots of things to think about. You may be determined to do it, think it’ll be fun and harmless but the reality is you have feelings for this man. You may think it’s no big deal beforehand but you can’t predict your feelings after you watch the man you love get it on with another woman. Once it’s been done, you can’t take it back.

The broken glass from Scenario Two? That wasn’t from fun and games and “oops!” we knocked something over—That was from her launching glasses at him when she had a change of heart AFTER what we’d done. Sure she’d been there encouraging the whole thing, but when it was over she was more than pissed at him.

Can you imagine what might have happened if they were still a couple?

While men can go around sticking it in any hole they wish without feelings of attachment, women are cursed with giving a fuck. This of course doesn’t go for everyone and depends on the circumstances. I’ve had sex like a man and it’s very empowering to not care about them at all. There’s a difference between guys like that and the one I actually love.

Tips For the Insider

  • Make your guest star a true guest star—someone you don’t know. Whether you find her on the adult classifieds or hire an escort, she’ll be out of your life once the job is done.
  • If you know the guest star it’ll help if she is someone who lives pretty far away. It’s difficult to have a girl who’s had sex with your man, hanging around you and especially him all the time.
  • Keep it focused. You don’t have to let this girl sleep over and provide her breakfast the next morning or anything (though a girlfriend of mine did get this sort of royal treatment.) When it’s all said and done, you can say goodbye…and it leaves some room for some twosome action.
  • Make sure you know why you’re doing it, if it’s not a fantasy of yours or something you think you’ll enjoy then don’t do it. He’ll live.
  • Get something out of it. With a guy who’s lucky to have two women and a guest star that’s an outsider—you run the show. Make sure that you’re having a great time and getting what you want out of it. This isn’t a twosome with you as the voyeur (well unless you want it to be of course.)
  • Set ground rules for whatever you don’t feel comfortable with and don’t be afraid to take charge.
  • Relax and have fun!


From a woman’s perspective, threesomes can be a fun experience. Maybe not something you want to do every weekend but a situation worth exploring.

Have fun, be safe and happy threesomes!

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19 comments:

  1. I want to put this on a poster, and hang it on my bedroom wall. Think my gf would notice?

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  2. wow....I feel like I just read the greatest scouting report on an NFL first round draft pick, ever.

    This is great information. Including the broken glass negative stuff actually made me think that I will never have a threesome with my wife, because we have nice drinking glasses and I would miss them.

    good stuff both of you.

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  3. btw, bringing another another girl in "to finish the job". I don't get that. You mean the other two girls couldn't make him have an orgasm?

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  4. Dammit you need to stop making me horny at work. lol

    And this was a great post by the way.

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  5. Thanks for the comments!

    A poster wow!

    @Lance, it's not that we couldn't-- we just didn't want to, for whatever reason. I mean-- we were young! So my friend called in her roommate who just came in and blew him like a pro. I know he didn't mind ;)

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  6. Well, the threesomes I had were with my ex-fiance and we were able to walk away with a better relationship afterwards (the threesomes were NOT the reason we split) so if you can take it for what it is, I say go for it.

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    1. How was your relationship better after the threesome??

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  7. Another great threesome post. Wonderful job, Chrystal and kudos Lisa for having her here. Loved it. :-) Now I'll all worked up...hope Zumba works off some of this unused sexual energy. ;-)

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  8. Chrystal,

    Thanks for your great and well-written post about threesomes from the female perspective.

    I do agree that communication is essential for everyone involved in participating in a
    threesome to avoid any messy, painful problems. Everyone just wants to have fun.
    No one wants to ruin anyone’s relationships or marriage.

    The woman that threw the glass AFTER your threesome encounter had no business
    participating in such activity. And I bet it was his fantasy, not hers which is always
    a potential problem. I have found that instability and jealousy rarely leads to
    great sex anyway.

    And contrary to popular belief, men do actually have feelings, although we don’t
    tend to lose it emotionally when the pursuit of pleasure is involved. Everyone needs to be
    on the same page for a threesome to work.

    That being said one can have threesomes with married or committed couples without
    ruining everyone’s lives. Some of the best swinger encounters I have had have
    been with married couples or those in a serious relationship. I was a break in their
    boring sex routine. They had made the decision to expand their sex lives.
    Now, I admit it was strange at time to look over and see their wedding pictures on their
    bedroom mantle as we had sex. But when it was over, I went back to my single life
    and they went back to their marriage or relationship and we all had fun and no one
    got hurt.

    A real life threesome can be hotter than any porn threesome ever filmed, but with anything there are consequences and people’s feelings you have to always consider. Still, threesomes can be an experience -- whether a one time fling or an ongoing series of encounters -- that enriches your sex life. It all depends on your perspective as with
    most things in life.

    George Pappas
    author of novel Monogamy Sucks
    www.monogamysucks.wordpress.com

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  9. Randy, I am going to live vicariously through your blog. I'm a washed up thirty something that enjoys giving all to his daughter and wife but "never" is a word that I never use. Or, wait, uh....Chrystal is good people.

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  10. That was a brilliant post, Chrystal.~ It was really interesting to get a woman's perspective after reading what the guys contributed to Randy's piece.

    Also? I loved the opening paragraphs, too, where you described the scene.~

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  11. Twitter is being a dick and won't let me respond, but I hope you are having a great time with Secret Agent Man, my darling RandyGirl.~

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  12. Thanks everyone for your awesome comments!!-- I really hope that you'll be checking out my blog and maybe sometime in the future you'll even pick up a book of mine.

    @George-- In this particular situation it was a VERY, VERY, totally and completely UNPLANNED threesome. We all went shopping at a smut shop before hand and were prancing around in the outfits he bought us.

    SHE initiated it, telling him to kiss me...telling him to do things with me, for me etc.
    I'm not sure she really thought about how she felt after.
    But luckily for me she wasn't upset with me at all. Hell I got to sleep in bed and wait for her while she chucked glass at him lol

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  13. Thanks to Chrystal for giving my Random Girl kids such a great piece to enjoy. It was truly my pleasure to have her guest post here. Perhaps again??

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  14. Wow this was such an amazing post. Thank you so much for the information. You definitely make good points and it all comes down to communication. However, why would she change her mind after the fact and get all jealous and throw shit? A little immature on her part.

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  16. Usefull Post! Both sexes can get usefull tips from this. make it a win win + (win) situation.

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  17. This was good insight. I was recently invited to engage in a threesome with a couple. But let me start an give some background information. The Guy in the situation I have been sleeping with for about a year or two....I DID NOT KNOW during all our sexcapaded that he had a girlfriend back at home. (We were both in college). Now recently he asks me to do a threesome with him and his girlfriend. I was excited about it at first BUT the more i do research and think about it....im not quite sure. I could possibly mess up their relationship. :/ I dont know....

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    1. That sounds like dicey territory for a few reasons. First, you already have kind of a long term hook up history with this guy so it might be kind of hard to pretend that you are new to each other when the GF is around don't you think? If GF sees that you two are familiar with each other and you were just supposed to be a fun thing on the side for him, that could totally blow up his relationship. But, I have to wonder, if he's OK banging you on the side for a couple of years, what kind of boyfriend is he really being in the first place? I guess if you can get yours and get out, go for it. But if you are looking to avoid drama, having a threesome with this couple is probably not the route to go. Good Luck and keep us posted!

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